The Female Experience
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May 7, 2020
This entry might get me in trouble with the social justice crowd, as I am not following their advocated protocols when talking about the female experience. All while being a white, heterosexual, cis-gendered male who also happens to have stunning blue eyes and a potentially unwise amount of cockiness.
But I was never in the Vampires' Castle, and if the Cancel God will come for me because I am awkwardly trying to be truthful, then with a loving-kindness, I really want to say molon labe. But I will not say that, because I do not want to be cancelled. However, as Daniel Thorson mentioned when he was on my podcast, willingly being cancelled might be the Jesus move of our generation, as Kanye West foreshadowed for us with his daemonic embodiment.
I sense the metamodern masculine male, especially of the heterosexual variety—which I fall under probably around 99% as of this moment—needs to help reinvent love. Or better put, he needs to help reinvent the love story. What does that story look like? I do not know, but I do know it is not The Notebook, even though my 1% thinks Ryan Gosling is cute, especially with that smoldering Stoic squinting game of his.
To speak personally, I want to love the ugliness of a woman, and not just her beautiful parts. Women have the capacity for ugliness in all its forms, just like men, and it is time for us to stop shaming this aspect. And yes, women can be sluts, whores, witches, and evil bitches, and that is okay. I want to develop the capacity to love this, and not shame it, and I do not want to project my spiritual beta male desires onto women anymore.
Dear men's rights activists, I am not saying this to give a free pass for the feminine to do whatever they want to do, no no no. I am a man of virtue and reason, and I am not shy to say what I think needs to be said. And this is not about your former failed mating strategy of virtue signalling Mr. Nice Guy. These journals are not a mating strategy, or at least I do not think they are.
It is time to put the Madonna/whore complex to bed. I desire to buckle up and watch women's full wildness and power emerge. I deeply desire to see the philosopher queens rise to their thrones, and I desire to help them if I can. I am trying to be in right relationship with the whole of the masculine experience. In order to do this, I need to be in right relationship with the whole of the feminine experience, which includes the whole experience of females and males, heterosexual and homosexual, along with other expressions of the human experience that do not neatly fall into these categories.
I am learning, and I am up for grabs, politically and spiritually. Everything I wrote could be wrong, I am open to revising my propositions, and I am even open to being tone policed. Or at least I am open to hearing out the tone police. I want to be playfully flirty with all memetic tribes, and I am open to communicating with them, in the way that they need to be communicated with, in order for true understanding to occur.
Oh man, I am experiencing so much thumos right now. I am ready to get this, and I am ready to win the liminal war, and to play this metagame, but of course, I need your help.
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