Seduction
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May 26, 2020
The trick of a spiritual striptease is to show your ugly parts in a beautiful way.
Reactance is the psychological concept to describe the unpleasant emotional reaction when somebody feels their freedom of choice is taken away. Also, as one of the original pick-up artists David DeAngelo said: "attraction isn't a choice."
Raven tweeted this yesterday: "how do you tell the difference between pick up artistry and radical honesty? between the fake phallus and the authentic phallus?"
Daniel replied: "If you ultimately can't, does it matter?"
Raven responded: "I think you can. and I think it does."
And like an epistemic cowboy I jumped in: "Agreed. And I think the difference will become obvious when the sexes begin to trust each other."
I was never a pick-up artist, but I have approached lots of beautiful women, and I consumed most of the “game” literature known to man, and I have learned their secrets. During my first session with Peterson as his client, I mentioned the pick-up artists, and he blurted out: "they are sociopaths!"
Yes, some are, but most are not. Most just want love, and they do not trust women, and they are seeking a guarantee. I pushed back on Peterson and told him that the practice of pick-up artistry can be repurposed as a form of assertiveness training, if you do not get seduced by the process, and by the highs of feeling attractive. He seemed to soften his stance hearing this.
I used to joke with my friends who were in the pick-up artist scene that I was unseducable. I fell in love with Camille, but she never tried to seduce me. She was too innocent and too salt-of-the-earth to even attempt a seduction. That is what seduced me.
As an archetypal Scorpio, I do like playing the game, and the metagame. Do not hate the player, hate the metagame, but yeah, do not hate that either. Attraction is not a choice, and the desire to play is not a choice either, as the desire to play is born from the feeling of being unlovable.
Once you transcend that feeling, a residual skill set remains, and you can fall in love with the game for its own sake. This is the point where choice can enter the scene, and this is where the metagame comes online. If you hand the keys to the daemon that is, and allow your inner Coyote to howl for communitas.
The secret I am starting to realize is the best seduction has no secrets. It is a very truthful process. A spiritual stripteaser has no secrets, he just moves with a sensual caution, attempting to transmute his ugliness into something beautiful. This is my humble attempt with these journals.
I am really an open book. I am in love with being truthful and my whole body revolts at lying or bullshiting. I have no secrets and all that is required is that you ask me the right question, and most people are too scared toask the right question, because they are scared ofthe answer they will receive.
Listen. I am not going to be coy anymore: this unseducable man wants to be seduced, and I want to seduce you, and I am most seduced when you are not trying to seduce me. Wicked games are really silly games and it is time we stop playing them.
Let us be truthful in our seduction. Let us admit we are attracted to each other, when we are attracted to each other. Let us admit we are hot for each other, when we are hot for each other. Let us also never forget to be highly virtuous in our relationships, whether in friendship, in courtship, in monogamy, or in polyamory.
I cannot help but play, and I am playing for communitas. I am playing for beauty, and I want us to play in such a way where the sexes finally begin to trust each other.
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